The Hidden Messages in Communication

All communication must involve both a sender and a receiver of messages, simply because you send a message to someone and s/he is not available to receive a message, then sending doesn’t exist. Of course we often think of communication in the form of written or verbal, but communication conveys through actions are also as important, and if not more so in the business world, this is Kinetic messages. A simple gesture such as a wink, a frown, a smile, a sigh, a nod, they all convey messages. So do grooming, attire, posture, temper, punctuality, and so forth.

I think many times we sent Kinetic messages without realizing it and it’s being sent and received continually. In fact, they are very important because they determine whether people can get along and work together harmoniously, and whether a business can maintain good relationships with its customers. Typically the message transmitted through action will have greater impact than the message transmitted through words, I guess that’s why they say “actions speak louder than words.” I would say that business people have to be just as concerned about what they do as much as what they say, many people that I know got fired from their job because of the Kinetic messages, the verbal just made things worse.

As for me, another types of communication that’s interesting is the Metacommunications. These are messages in between the lines, and at this point, I think it’s good to be a mind reader, sadly I’m not one but I do have good hunches. These messages are not literally expressed in words, but they accompany messages that are expressed in words. Kind of confusing in my opinion and of course they also vary in meaning, I can read the message, and think it’s one thing, and someone else could read the same message and interpret it differently. Also both Kinetic and Metacommunications are present in all messages, whether written or spoken, these messages convey ideas in addition to the ideas expressed in words. All actions, or even failure to act at all have meaning, something to think about.

Fall Leaf Raking Day

This is a Carolina Blue sky, with a little help from a polarizing filter of course.

My Ginkgo tree is turning yellow, the fan like leaf shapes are absolutely beautiful this time of the year.

Lee has her own sense of fashion style, you won’t find this outfit anywhere, I made part of it myself last year, not something that I’m proud of.  It’s funny how she puts her outfit together, kind of amuse to watch her dressed sometimes. I asked her what she wants to be when she grow up?  She went from wanting to be a painter to a hat maker, and when she saw the new sewing  machine that my oldest sister lent us, she now wants to be a fashion designer. She wants to learn how to sew, I think she is ready, I started out a bit older than her, might be around 10 or 11 years old.

Biltmore Garden in November

Again, we didn’t get to tour the town of Asheville, North Carolina.  This is a charming little town where time seems to stand still, as you can see that even McDonald looks retro.

This made me think of Luang Prabang, Laos where modernization has not touched but embraced what’s already there, below is a photo of Wat Xieng Thong, one of the most beautiful Buddhist Temples in my opinion.

The Rose garden is kind of bare at this time of the year, I missed the Rose peak season and maybe I’ll have better luck next year.

But there are still a few blooms left for me to admire.

One Million Hits!

Achieving 1 million hits is a big deal to me because Nye Noona is a personal blog, I blog about my life, my interests and anything in between and certainly didn’t expect this kind of traffic.  My goal was to achieve this before my 3 year anniversary, November 26, 2009, but you all have been very kind and tuned in more often than expected, a big thanks to all.

The November Blues

This is an assignment from Scott Thomas Photography, Assignment 4: November.  You are welcome to participate, I think it would be interesting to see what November means to you.

The month of November made me think of Chrysanthemum flowers, this picture was taken at Biltmore Estate last Sunday.

But what November means to me is less time to play outside, especially in my garden, as the days are getting shorter, and nights longer.  I feel trapped inside, and keep thinking of the beautiful vibrant autumn leaves that are falling off the trees one by one, wondering if I would ever see the last falling leave.  As for my dog Max, I know he would, he has all the time in the world.

It’s obvious that he has got it made, he even has the time to stop and smell the fire hydrants.