I once heard a story, there was an elderly lady talking to a child. She has a coin in her hand and asked if the child wants to know what it was, if yes, then to knock on the table 5 times, the child did as told. She then opened her hand and there sat an ordinary coin. After that, she closed her hand into a fist, and asked the same question again. But this time, the child lost interest and really did not want to know, the truth is, the child knew that in that hand was just an ordinary coin and there was nothing special about it.
I guess it’s only human nature to want to know, to have and to hold, and we would do almost anything to find out, to get to know but once we know what it was, we then lost interest. If I was to ask you, have the coin change, is it less in value? The answer is no, the value of the coin is still the same because it’s still the same coin even before and after we saw it. It’s the feeling of wanting to know, the feeling that we can’t reach, the feeling that we can’t have that is making something valuable, but once we know what it is, we no longer see the importance of it.
As for certain individual that we thought highly of because s/he is popular, everyone want to get to know, want to be closed to, but once we engaged in conversation, we know right away that there is nothing special about that person, sometimes thing is not what it seems. This holds true for many celebrities, everyone want to get to know them because they look good, have a sense of humor, but once you have a chance to sit down and have a hart to hart talk, there is nothing special about that person, they are very ordinary, they can’t think for themselves but arrogant, those feelings that you have at the very beginning sort of vanished, you no longer want to know them.
Sometimes the reverse holds true, have you ever met someone that is very plain, living a simple life, and very ordinary, but once you engaged in conversation with that person, the conversation is enriching and you can tell that this person is not ordinary after all, there is something special there. You start to show interest, wanting to engage in conversation with that person again. Why? I think might be the goodness in that person that shines, that they are very giving, and people like this we all need in our lives, we want to hold on to them as long as we could. We often treat people according to how we value them, valuing people mean that we treat each person as an individual, with respect and sometimes actions speak louder than words.