It’s a personal matter, but it seems that it’s everyone’s business, if you’re still single then they’ll ask, when will you get married?
Whether you’re a guy or gal, if you’re at the age that you should be marrying (by their standard), especially in the Lao (Asian) community, most likely your friends and family members will ask you, as if concern for your well being, as to when will you get married (more likely being nosy, I believe.) Sure enough, asking once is not enough, most likely they’ll ask you repeatedly, the same question over and over…until you’re sick and tire of hearing this question…when will you get married?
It’s worse if you’re a female, and your age is approaching 30 and still single; not only will they ask you when will you get married?, but many other questions to follow such as, are you a lesbian?, seeing these questions coming at you’d make you want to run and hide.
As for those single gals and guys out there, especially in the Lao (Asian) community, people will scrutinize you to see why you’re still single, such as not pretty (handsome) enough, possibly ill manner or might not be normal, if you’re a guy then possibly gay. You obviously can’t convince anyone that you truly want to be single, that you’re happy being by yourself.
As for the Chinese community, it’s even worse, especially if you’re a guy, Ah Ma, Ah Pa will try to force you into marrying someone because they want to have grandchildren, old people tend to get lonely, and do you blame them? They also want their grandchildren to carry on the family name, and it’s such a big deal for Chinese people.
Then I saw a story of ‘Man marries himself’ in China. What is wrong with this picture?
Liu Ye apparently has been asked, ‘when will you get married?’ once too many, and a bit annoying by the whole deal, I’d assume. I think it’d be very difficult to find a suitable bride (female) in China this day because (Source by Nexus) “Since the eighties, a huge surplus of men build up in China and other Asian countries. This is the result of a traditional preference for male offspring and the modern ability to detect the gender of a fetus in an early stage. As a consequence of selective abortion and the neglect of female infants, the natural ratio between boys and girls has been distorted. In parts of China and India the surplus of boys/men has risen to 12 – 15% of the total population.”
Despite all this, he decided to get married, maybe then they’ll stop asking.
A Chinese man has married himself to express his “dissatisfaction with reality”.
Liu Ye, 39, from Zhuhai city, married a life-sized foam cutout of himself wearing a woman’s bridal dress.
“There are many reasons for marrying myself, but mainly to express my dissatisfaction with reality,” he said.
“This marriage makes me whole again. My definition of marriage is different from others.”
The ceremony was held at a traditional courtyard packed with more than 100 guests.
The ‘couple’ was led out by a bridesmaid and a groomsman and bowed to ancestors and senior guests for blessings.
Liu says he is not gay, but admits he’s “maybe a bit narcissistic,” reports New Express.