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Sometimes I get so disappointed with people that I came across, whether it’s on the internet or real life because they want to appear to the general public in a certain way, but in reality it’s totally the opposite.
I considered myself a person of my word and always try to deliver what I promised to people, whether it’s on the internet or real life, I’m that same person. I might not have a real name or face to go with my words, but I’m very sincere in what I say or do, but sadly, I can’t say that everyone is like this and very sad to know that certain individuals that I know are not like this, it’s all about talk but no walk.
Why do people just talk the talk and not walk the walk that bothers me. I think deep down inside, you know yourself the type of person you are, but what I don’t understand is why you are trying to fool others in thinking that you’re someone else, obviously, your actions do not match with your words.
I know I’m asking questions that deep down inside I have an answer for, but it’s hard for me to believe and accept that these are the people that I’m dealing with, people that I thought I knew well, and people that I think highly of. Most of us wear mask on a daily basis, whether we want to appear happy, or indifferent, but that’s only an expression that we want people to perceive us, no harm done, but what about those that only talk, when will you take that walk?
No need to tell you what my mood is this morning and if I have to spell it out, very sad and so much disappointment, for those of you that don’t walk the walk, talk the talk, I know who you are, but I just have to come to terms with it, and maybe after I get over my disappointment, it’ll start to sink in, and eventually, I might be brave enough to weed you out from my life.
I’m sure we all have someone(s) that we know that talks the talk but don’t walk the walk but we still keep him or her as friend, why do we do that to ourselves. Are we just too gullible?
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August 16, 2007 at 10:34 am
Anonymous
Some people are just liar and fruit loops, you just have to excuse their upbringing.
August 16, 2007 at 1:06 pm
Ginger
Thanks, I think I live in a shelter life way too long, it’s an eye opening experience to see how the other half live. It’s good to know who is who.
August 16, 2007 at 3:55 pm
K
Well to each his own - in many ways, different people, different preferences. Just stick to what you believe is right, you may not be these kind of person but we cannot change the way we are so often we will criticize, the things that others do. But, do you know, they do not think, the same way as me and you.
August 16, 2007 at 4:23 pm
Ginger
Thanks K, you always have kind word to say to me, not many people would do that, they’re afraid to express their opinions in this type of post.
After this post, I had people asking me who am I talking about, if I’m talking about them, then I thought, if it’s you, then you’d know it, you wouldn’t even have to ask me, you know yourself better than me.
I guess it wouldn’t bother me if they show their true selves, but it bothers me that they’d pretend to think like you and I. You’re right, they obviously don’t care, and I just have to be extra careful.
August 16, 2007 at 9:15 pm
amphone
People can be very deceitful and untrue. Meeting people through friends and family is different. You can form your opinion base on theirs. On the interenet or here, one have to have faith in God that the other person is a good being.
I truely believe, for an example, you are a person of virtue, someone I can trust my child with. I believe you are honorable….as honorable as I am. I am proud to be a person that I am. Keeping my words and promises is so important.
I have anger and frustration. I have my own demon that I fought with day in day out. Knowing that, I have to be careful because other people may have lost their battle with their demon.
So far, I tugged myself away safely in my home and my community. People know me. They know me enough to judge me. Those that don’t know me better can form their opinion base on what they heard. What people say about me is who I am. I have come to accept that now. I never blame thosee who made conclusion about me.
I am sincere in what I am saying now…this minute. I am saying this because I see that you moody. Someone(s) have made you sad and angry….emotion you can’t deny. But I am glad that you do have someone that share same thoughts with you. It’s fortunate.
August 17, 2007 at 7:08 am
Ginger
Thank you Amphone for your kind words, it’s hard to judge a person just by reading what they wrote, especially a person such a myself, but you seem to think that I’m a good person, and I like to think so myself. I don’t think one person could have made me wrote this post, but more like many situations combined and it’s hard to explain and I rather not. The good thing about it is that being at where I am right now, I can see things a lot better, it’s a matter of waiting for the right time to do something about it, time is the key.
August 17, 2007 at 10:26 pm
amphone
The answer is always inside you. Isn’t it? Deepak Copra MD said so.
August 18, 2007 at 7:30 am
Ginger
Yes Amphone, the answer is inside us, and some of us are too blind to see it or can see it but are not willing to accept, for what ever reason, this is according to Buddha, “May you develop mental concentration, for whoso is mentally concentrated, sees things according to reality”, and “Just as when a lighted lamp is brought into a dark chamber, the lamp-light will destroy the darkness and produce and spread the light, just so will insight, once arisen, destroy the darkness of ignorance and produce the light of knowledge.”
Tranquility and insight are the state of mind that most people loosely called meditation. Tranquility is the concentrated, unshaken, peaceful and therefore undefiled state of mind, whilst insight is the intuitive insight into the impermanency, misery and impersonality (anicca, dukkha, anatta) of all bodily and mental phenomena of existence, included in the 5 groups of existence, namely corporeality, feeling, perception, mental formations and consciousness. Tranquility or concentration of the mind is the condition of insight; it is the indispensable foundation and precondition of insight by purifying the mind from the 5 mental defilements or hindrances, whilst insight produces the 4 super mundane stages of holiness and deliverance of mind. Source.
August 18, 2007 at 4:14 pm
karmadiva
Ginger, I have learned a long time ago that others are not like me so I can’t expect them to act, think, or be like me. I have to agree with K that we are all different. I don’t set myself up to be hurt or disappointed by not expecting anything from anybody. Why do you worry about what others do or not do or think or not think? The way I see it, we have ourselves to blame for our state of misery or happiness because we are in control of that emotion.
Sometimes we all have a difficult time walking the walking etc but that’s because we are all human. We can’t always accomplish what we set out to do or do what we say because life interferes. Should we criticize others when they do this? No, because we can’t cast the first stone because more than likely we are all guilty as well. Humans make mistakes and most of us do learn from it and we get up and dust the dirt off our bottoms and try again.
As a teacher, I am obssess with being a good role(not perfect) model for my students. I always tell them everything I make them do, I do myself. If I tell them to be organize, do their homework, listen, pay attention, be respectul; I do not just tell them, I show them. They see me come to class prepared, ready to go, and they are motivated because they know I practice what I preach. We can set examples for others, but we can’t always expect them to follow us because they are all unique and they all deal with things differently. When my students do not do what I want, I don’t throw a fit, I find a different way to motivate them. I try to keep a positive attitude at all times.
“I am convinced that attitude is the key to success or failure in almost any of life’s endeavors. Your attitude-your perspective, your outlook, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about other people-determines you priorities, your actions, your values. Your attitude determines how you interact with other people and how you interact with yourself.” Carolyn Warner
August 18, 2007 at 8:25 pm
Ginger
Hi Karmadiva, I think that people will do what they want, or say what they will, but I don’t have to put myself in their social circle, this part is easy to do, just like I only visit blogs that I feel welcome and only leave comments if I have the urge to do so, we all do that. I like you, but not myspace.com; you knew this, so I don’t visit you there, which I’m sure you’re okay with that. What we say or do is our rights, and others should not tell us what to say or do, people will say and do what they want, but I don’t have to put up with their craps.
We all have people that leave comments on our post, some are not very nice but that’s a reminder that maybe they might be right about us, otherwise they wouldn’t have the need to leave that not so nice comments, but some might judge us because they’re very unhappy individuals and complaint about everything underneath the sky, most don’t know us at all.
Then there are comments that Akismet spams for us, otherwise we’ll have porn comments flying everywhere, the process is weeding out the bad comments that are inappropriate for our posts or blogs, and I don’t see why we can’t use this same process with the people that we came across whether in real life or on the internet, porn comments are easy to detect, but bad people with bad intentions are harder because they don’t wear their labels (intension) on their sleeves, and if I were to be extra cautious, then it’s my way of protecting myself from hurting in the future, to me being cautious is better than being wide open, none of us want to set ourselves up for getting hurt, but sometimes I’m too naïve and ignorant and it’s my bad.
This post, I’m sure many can relate to, we all have someone(s) that is like this. If the situations don’t involve me, then I wouldn’t care what they say or do, if they walk or talk (eat or sleep.) Many people that I’m talking about here have certain expectation of me, some expect me to (put this mildly) be their slave, cheat, lie or steal for them, which is not my cup of tea. I don’t put myself in the situations but I’m in the situations by circumstances, and also because I have good intention and might be too naïve, but these situations or circumstances are difficult to talk about and getting out of, time might be the key and answer to my problems.
The people that I’m talking about here would most likely not even read this post, so why am I talking about it here, just blowing off some steam, you might say I’m full of shit at the moment.
August 19, 2007 at 1:47 am
karmadiva
Hahahahaha! You still make me laugh! All of us are full of shit sometimes. It’s funny but my family have always told me that I am very naive for my age and that people will take advantage of it. They are right, sometimes people do that because I trust them too much because I always try to believe in the goodness in them. Trust me Ginger I have been burned by several people whom I thought I could confide in, but they end up disappointing me because they don’t have honor or integrity. When that happens I don’t take them into my confidence anymore. You know once bitten twice shy.
It is sad that some people feel the need to resort to dishonesty and trickery to get people to do what they want, but this is the world we live in. I’m the kind of person who believes in being truthful and honest about everything if possible and when people are not the same way towards me I feel disappointed and sad, but then I brush it off and say okay I can’t win everybody over!:) Maybe that is why I love Yoga and Pilates— it is my way to space out and get centered and find the goodness in me!
August 19, 2007 at 5:33 am
Ginger
Karmadiva, you do Yoga and Pilates to tune out your problems, some would go see a shrink, I’d walk my frustration off, but what’s left over you’d hear about it here, and sometimes at Laovoices.com, reason being is that I feel sorry for the few individuals that I complaint my problems to. I learned from the best, if K can complain about stuff at his blog, so can I.